How To Raise an Awesome Wedding Toast

How To Raise an Awesome Wedding Toast

Being chosen by the bridal couple to raise the toast on their wedding day is a very special honour that fills one with excitement. For some, however, it can be a real nerve-racking prospect once you realise you must deliver a heartfelt speech to a huge crowd; on one of the most important days of their lives.

We at BoaGoa, have come together with some suggestions to make the speech writing and toasting just a little bit easier.

Ashley Dias

Ashley Dias

BoaGoa

Get a Head Start

Start preparing the speech a good 2-3 weeks in advance. This gives you enough time to ensure that you have all your facts in place. For instance, the wedding guests would love to know how the couple first met or how the groom proposed to the bride (or vice versa).

Getting the speech ready early would give you time to practice so that the speech feels natural on the day of the wedding. Do not hesitate to have a few friends proofread the speech and give you any tips or suggestions that they might have. Practice in front of a mirror or on camera, so that you know how to pace out the speech and help you be more confident.

Be Yourself

If you aren’t inherently a person who jokes a lot, avoid attempting multiple jokes. Play to your strengths; the speech could be emotional, funny, sweet or if you are good at singing or composing a poem and it is a talent appreciated by the couple, use those skills to share your feelings with everyone.

As quoted by Roy T Bennett:

“To shine your brightest light is to be who you truly are.”

Content: Start – Middle – End

Structure the content of the speech into three parts so you can cover most of the aspects of a great speech.
A good way to start would be to address the guests and welcome them to be
a part of the celebration. A handy joke would be a good ice breaker before you proceed with an introduction of yourself and your relationship with the couple (remember, this is the couple’s special day, so the guests want to hear more about them rather than your accolades). Express your emotions to be given the honour to raise the toast. If you have a nice story on why you believe you were chosen to raise the toast do share it with the audience.

Focus the next section of the speech on the newlyweds. Let everyone know why you believe they bring out the best in each other and belong together. The stories of how they met, proposed, fell in love and even your fondest memory with the couple are good candidates to showcase why they make a terrific couple.
You can even whip out a humorous joke about a quirky behaviour or habit of the bride/groom or the couple together and how the significant other would cope with it.

Closeout the speech by offering advice and well wishes to the couple. Thank the bridal couple, their parents, siblings, and all the guests in attendance for being a part of the special occasion. Ask that everyone enjoy themselves and share in the bliss of the new bride and groom. If possible, end with a good joke to leave a smile with the married couple and the guests.

Toast to the Couple, Don’t Roast them.

This is the day of the bridal couple, and the guests have come together to celebrate them and to be a part of their happiness. Hence it would be well appreciated to refrain from embarrassing the couple with inappropriate jokes, bringing up past relationships, unnecessarily swearing, and by being drunk. Stay classy and every word you say should be focused on making the couple smile with gratitude and nostalgia.

Keep the speech short and sweet.

The speech should ideally be around 3-4 minutes long. This would give you enough time to engage the audience and take them through the journey about the bridal couple that you want them to experience.

Speak slowly and deliberately; it’s easy to get carried away and go a little too fast for the guests to comprehend. Look directly at the couple when addressing them and don’t forget that you’re speaking to everyone in the vicinity. Make eye contact and smile at the guests as you take them on this journey.

Jot down the notes.

Keep a note of the important points you would like to cover during the speech. It’s always better to have it written on a piece of paper or note cards rather than on the phone, as the phone might ring or need to be unlocked causing an awkward interruption.


The notes should only be used if you draw a blank or forget the next part; try to keep your eyes on the bridal couple or the audience for most of the speech to keep them engaged.

Be Calm and Composed.

It’s always a good approach to talk to the MC before the reception so that you have a good idea of when you are expected to speak. When the moment approaches, take a few deep breaths and remember that you are well-rehearsed and have it under control.

If you believe that a drink or two would help you calm the nerves, feel free to have some. However, refrain from drinking too much before the toast as you want to be in control and focused during the speech. Remember that you do have your notes in case you blank out.

Raise your Glass to Toast to the Wedding

Once you have completed the speech, don’t forget to toast. Clink your glass with the bridal couple and ask everyone to raise their glasses to honour the newlyweds. Cheers!!!

10 Tips Before Finalizing Your Dream Venue in GOA

10 Tips Before Finalizing Your Dream Venue in GOA

Choosing the perfect venue is one of the most important decisions, since it plays a huge role in the success of an event and setting the ambiance you need to create your dream event. A popular misconception is that the ideal dream venues are accompanied by a large cheque, which may be true sometimes but isn’t always the case.

We, at BoaGoa have collaborated on a set of carefully researched tips to help you choose the best place for your needs.

Ashley Dias

Ashley Dias

BoaGoa

1. Visit and shortlist venues as early as possible.

Good venues with decent price tags are booked like hot cakes, hence it’s very important to personally visit as many venues as possible as soon as the date of your event has been finalized. Visualize what you would want your event to be like and how you would have the place set up at each of the locations so that all your requirements are covered.
Having a good idea about the small details such as how the guests would be seated, where the platform for the band and the banquet would be placed and how the entrance would be decorated is vital. This would also help you give all the vendors a clearer picture of what you are expecting.

Our recommendation would be not to finalize a venue before visiting multiple venues around your location, since your ideal venue might be the next one.

2. Scope out the size of the venue.
The venue should be able to accommodate at least 10-15% more guests based on the guest list you are expecting. Selecting a venue is one of the first steps in planning an event, hence there is a possibility the number of invitees may increase over time. The seating capacity should be determined based on the type of seating you prefer, for instance a theater style seating could accommodate much more people as compared to banquet style.

3. Budget for the venue.
You need to ensure that the venue shouldn’t absorb a huge portion of the overall budget you are comfortable with. Keeping the cost of an event within a budget involves making adjustments to the amount reserved for other components as well such as the band and the caterers.

Touch base with your co-organizers often and re-evaluate how much you’re spending in different areas. Talk about which items could be compromised on, and how that would affect your original plan.

4. Assess the weather conditions.
If your event is planned close to the monsoon season (June to October) or if there are chances of rain, you would need to plan accordingly.
If the probability of rain is moderate, do consider venues that have an indoor space that could at least accommodate guests and the food.
If the probability is high, consider an indoor air-conditioned venue for the event.

5. Enquire about Cut-Off Time for the venue.
Different venues have a different cut-off times at which the event must end depending on government rules and location. Hence, it is very important to check this for each venue and determine if it suits your requirement. These timings would have to be informed to all the vendors to ensure that everything operates smoothly. 

6. Check the amenities offered by the venue.
Verifying the amenities being provided at the venue such as parking space, parking guides, power backups, the quality of seating arrangement and lighting is very important to avoid surprises at a later stage. The amenities offered in the deal could be a deciding factor, as the budget of the event would increase if you have to procure them separately.

7. Don’t be afraid to negotiate on the venue.
Once you finalize a venue, always negotiate based on the research you’ve done and the cost quotations received from the management of the other venues. The budget of the venue often increases because of the additional costs of food and drink included in the default packages. Check if the bar and caterers can be arranged separately to reduce the overall cost without compromising on quality.
Alternatively, do check for available packages or additional benefits the venue can provide you inclusive in the final cost. You might end up with an absolute steal of a deal.

8. Inquire about the necessary licenses needed
Many venues haven’t already procured licenses for Sound and Alcohol. Hence confirm with the venue if this will be arranged by the venue. Not having these licenses might cause the event to be interrupted by police or local government authorities.

9. Review the Terms and Conditions of the venue.
Venues usually have their own terms and conditions which might affect how your event functions. For instance, there may be a fixed time after which decorators and bands are allowed to setup on the day of the event. Some venues do not allow non-vegetarian menus or certain parts of the venue may have restricted access. It is better to cross check these terms with the venue before finalizing.

10. Discuss Payment.
Review the payment model with the venue such as what percentage of the total cost must be put down in order to book and what are their cancellation, refund and mode of payment policies. Make sure all these terms are provided by email or officially documented and not just through verbal agreement. This could turn out to be very useful in further discussions or in case of a conflict.

We certainly hope that these tips help you select the best venue and to hold the event of your dreams. Do visit the event planner designed in the BoaGoa app with curated checklists and vendor management for easy and effective planning.